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Tạo được ấn tượng, sự tự tin bạn cần phải đứng hoặc ngồi chắc chắn, không lắc lư hay bồn chồn. Đầu ở tư thế tự nhiên, lưng thẳng và thậm chí có thể hơi ngả về phía trước một chút và dù có nói chuyện với bất kì ai, bạn phải chắc rằng mình đang nói gì.
Sử dụng đôi tay
Các chính trị gia thấu hiểu rằng, cách họ sử dụng đôi tay cũng quan trọng như những gì họ nói.
David Cameron đã nghiên cứu phong cách nhấn mạnh của cựu Thủ tướng Anh Tony Blair cho thấy, mỗi khi ông đặt tay kia nằm gọn trong lòng bàn tay còn lại có nghĩa ông đang kết thúc một vấn đề. Ngược lại, Gordon Brown mắt nhìn xa xăm và thường tìm vị trí đặt tay mỗi khi ông ta đang nói.
Liên hệ bằng mắt
Mắt là một công cụ hữu hiệu để trao đổi. Liên hệ bằng mắt sẽ tạo một mối tin cậy chắc chắn. Thiếu cách giao tiếp này bạn sẽ khó truyền tải thông điệp.
Thuyết trình trước đám đông, chỉ cần bạn đưa ánh mắt chắc chắn nhìn vào từng gương mặt lần lượt, bạn sẽ gây được sự chú ý. Đảm bảo rằng bạn không nhìn chằm chằm vào người đối diện - chỉ trừ khi bạn muốn... dọa họ.
Bạn có gặp khó khăn khi biểu đạt chính mình?
Để thuyết phục một ai đó trong lần tới, bạn nên cân nhắc rõ ràng ấn tượng mình tạo ra khi nói. Ánh mắt bạn có đảo liên hồi không? Có lẽ bạn đã khoanh chân hoặc vẫn còn băn khoăn về bộ quần áo đang mặc?
Thường thường đa phần chúng ta thấy lo lắng khi phải diễn thuyết và khi đó ngôn ngữ cơ thể của chúng ta cũng... lộn tùng phèo. Còn nhiều thứ rối tung sẽ xảy ra nếu chúng ta nói năng không thuyết phục.
Tập trung vào người nghe và tưởng tượng ra bạn đang sẵn sàng đưa ra ý tưởng đến với họ. Khi đó bạn sẽ nhanh chóng nhận ra mình nói rất... trơn tru. Thậm chí cả khi họ không đồng ý với những gì bạn đang nói, họ cũng biết chắc bạn đang nói gì, về quan điểm nào. Tất nhiên, đừng nói những điều lăng nhăng nhé.
Thanh Chi
Theo Telegraph
10 Minute Body Language
This week: How to communicate with confidence.
The secret to all communication is making your point clearly and effectively. Whether you are negotiating a pay rise or arguing with a loved one, you always need to make clear what it is that you're saying. Your body is as important as your voice for doing this. How you carry and present yourself can make the difference between somebody merely letting your voice wash over them, or truly understanding and responding to you. Here are a few pointers to help you ensure that you say what you really want to say every time.
Be confident
Others won't take you seriously if you don't look like you are taking yourself seriously to begin with. Allow your physical presence to echo the impression you want to make with your words. To create an impression of confidence you should stand or sit firmly, without swaying or fidgeting. Keep your head still and your back straight and even lean slightly forward and whoever you're talking to will know that you feel sure in what you are saying.
Use your hands
As every good politician knows, the way you use your hands can be as important as what you say. David Cameron has studied Tony Blair's emphatic style, thrusting the back of one hand into the palm of the other to punctuate his points convincingly. Gordon Brown, by contrast, looks much more at sea, and often rearranges his hands nervously while he's speaking.
Make eye contact
The eyes are our most valuable tool when trying to get a point across. Eye contact plays a big part in striking rapport and establishing trust, while a lack of it can hinder your message. By maintaining eye contact with those you're addressing – moving steadily from person to person if faced with a group – you can control their attention. Make sure you are not staring – you don't want to scare people off.
Do you have trouble making yourself understood?
The next time you are trying to persuade someone of something, consider the impression you are giving as you speak. Are your eyes wandering? Perhaps you keep crossing your legs or fidgeting with your clothes? Many of us get nervous when we speak and our body language becomes confused. The same thing can happen if we aren't convinced by what we are saying. Focus on the other person and imagine you are willing your point onto them. You will find that you instantly become much more convincing. Even if they disagree with what you are saying, the people you are talking to will know exactly what your point is.Of course, none of this will help if you're talking a lot of rubbish.
10-minute body language
This week: how to tell if someone fancies you.
You could be a master of interpreting the little signals that other people are making, but it is just as important to be aware of your own body language when you are talking to a possible partner. Are you aware of the messages you are giving?
Next time you meet someone you are attracted to, while you're working out whether or not they are being unusually open towards you, take a while to consider how you are behaving yourself. Are you secretly conveying what you're thinking?
There might be some situations – the office, perhaps – where you'd prefer to disguise your attraction to someone.
If you're shy, you might find yourself being too closed off, in which case try looking up at the person you're talking to, and maintaining eye contact. Turning your body to face them will also help you to give an impression of interest, and opening your palms is an easy way to show a new acquaintance that you are feeling receptive. But be careful not to appear too forward.
Unfortunately, where reading attraction is concerned, the sexes are unequally gifted. Research shows that men are not very good at receiving signals or sending signals. That doesn't leave much does it. Good luck ladies!
* Few will be surprised to discover that women are much more expressive in displaying their interest than men, and give off a wide range of indicators that they're open to romantic suggestion.
Some of these will be familiar to even the most awkward of men: wide open eyes, flicking the hair away to expose the neck and throat, or flicking the hair back more generally, leaning towards a man while he is standing or sitting, pointing her feet towards him, gazing into his eyes, and tilting the head to one side. These are all giveaways that a woman is interested. Others clues such as exposing the wrist or palm, fidgeting with clothing, touching the neck or the throat and dilation of the pupils are more subtle and harder to spot:
Men, by contrast, have very little in their repetoire compared to women. They are also less obvious. Some feel a need to be physically expansive to assert themselves, which can be confusing, but generally a if a man finds a woman attractive his posture will be straightened, his stomach pulled in and his chest out. Look out for any increase in grooming rituals: smoothing the hair and touching their face, and unusual attention to clothing: fiddling with suit buttons, pulling up their socks, adjusting their tie or collar. Be warned, however – in some cases fidgeting can be a sign of discomfort.
Aside from this, is there a generally welcoming facial expression and demeanour? Look at the face – are the eyes gazing back at your eyes and neck region? This is the most reliable sign of interest. Roger Moore fans will be pleased to hear that a quick raise of the eyebrows is another giveaway. Who doesn't wish they were better at judging if people are attracted to them? Just imagine how much easier life would be if we could walk into a room and know, within seconds of meeting someone, whether or not they were interested in us as a romantic partner?
On the other hand, how many pitfalls and unfortunate misunderstandings might we avoid if we could distinguish between attraction and friendliness?
Like an iceberg, 90% of a romance is what goes left unsaid, and that's why it is crucial to learn how to read the tell-tale signs of body language. What we dare not say to the object of our attention, for fear of rejection or of seeming overly keen, we reveal by the way we carry ourselves and with the smallest physical gestures. By knowing the key signs to look out for, we can determine when someone is attracted to us – even if they don't know it yet themselves.
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